I’ve pretty much figured out what to do and where to do it from as my school provides pretty good counseling but my problem is not me…. its my parents…my father to be specific…..he was opposed to the idea of me doing a-levels my mother insisted a lot and he agreed but i want a year or two to go to a university for textile designing (my mother won’t be able to convince my dad his time) i dun want four years there are some short courses offered and they r perfect but how should i make my dad look at its merits?
counseling is there for me but what about my father and this is one big fat problem here in Pakistan with many girls and their education i don’t know whether this was the place to come or not but if you people could help me out and think of something as to how to counsel parents who still have a very backward thinking my father isn’t rude or anything don’t get a wrong picture of him its just his thinking….help!…..?
Madiha
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Madiha,
From what I understand, your father seems to belong to belong to school of thought that doesn’t really believe in girls going for higher education. So, you need to pinpoint exact issues that your father might have with you going to school.
Finances: General impression is that universities costs a lot of money. So you need to tell your father exactly how much it’ll cost him monthly.
Final Outcome: You need to tell your father exactly what you’ll achieve in the 1-2 years of university classes. What skills you’ll learn and how you might you be able apply them in your life. If he knows anything about the garments/textile industry, he might be interested in learning what kind of stuff you will be doing. Get in touch with somebody who went to textile designing school and get some work samples or course work etc.
Timings: Most parents are concerned if their daughter goes out for long periods of time. So you need to find out how long are classes and how you’ll manage transportation. Textile Designing school probably won’t have many guys there, so you can tell your father that its primarily going to be an mostly girls college.
The idea here is to remove any misconceptions that your father might have. Provide him with clear concise information that he can understand. Instead of just telling him ‘Dad, I wanna go to textile designing school’ you should tell him all the information that I’ve mentioned above. Also, if you can, find some acquaintance who has gone to that school before. And try to get your father to meet that friend and hear it from her directly.
hope that helps.
good luck